Parenthood: 30 Things My Parents Did that Made All the Difference (Part 1)

Saturday, March 5, 2011 20:25
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Parenting, in quite a few regards, is tough. It demands work, persistence, and patience. The really word parenthood is synonymous with challenges, frustrations, and responsibility. Nonetheless, parents everywhere will also collectively agree that parenthood is also the source of the greatest joy, satisfaction, happiness that life has to provide. All the work, responsibility, and even challenges are worth each and every effort and sacrifice. In reality, perhaps the reason why we experience so significantly happiness by way of parenthood is simply because we develop the most critical attribute of life – that of unselfishness. Ironic that we actually locate our lives via the losing of them!

Thankfully, I was fortunate sufficient to have two incredible parents – a father and mother who loved me, cared for me, taught me, disciplined me, and really epitomized what successful parenthood is all about.  While they were not best (even though close), they did certain issues that I feel every parent would benefit from knowing, and especially emulating. Below are listed many issues they did on a consistent basis that have made all the difference in mine and my siblings lives; as well as now the lives of my own kids as I seek to implement what they taught and exemplified. (Only 15 are listed in this article; even so, to view the other 15, please see component 2 in the Parenthood write-up series):

1) Power of Example: 1st and foremost, they lived what they taught! My siblings and I learned how to work difficult, serve other people, be disciplined, show respect, and act kindly not so significantly due to the fact it was expected of us, but since it was emulated in everything my parents did and had been.

2) They Made Mistakes … and Changed: There by no means has been a ideal pair of parents, and everybody certainly makes mistakes. However, I noticed growing up that when my parents did make mistakes, they learned from them, apologized, and then most importantly – changed.

3) Kids Always Came Very first: There was absolutely no question in my mind growing up that my siblings and I had been the highest priority to my parents. I can not recall ever feeling that their careers, hobbies, friends, or entertainment was more critical than family, or making time for and raising their youngsters. We spent a lot of time as a family, and just as considerably, my parents made regular time to just have one-on-1 time with every child.

4) Limited Electronic Drugs: Although as a child I might not have thanked my parents, I surely thank them now for being extremely proactive in monitoring the shows, entertainment, and time I spent watching TV, movies, video games, or pc time. In reality, typically was the case that we as a family would just invest the night together playing games rather than letting the TV or laptop or computer entertain or babysit us kids.

5) My Mother Stayed House: I was incredibly fortunate to have a mother who chose and was able to stay at house and be a mom. I recognize, even so, that quite a few other families do not have this great privilege, for a selection of reasons (usually uncontrollable life circumstances that force a mother to have to work). Now, my siblings and I definitely did not have all the newest toys, clothes, cars, or vacations growing up – but we each would collectively agree that having a mother in the property to be a mom was maybe the greatest difference, influence, and blessing in our lives.

6) We Occasionally Went Without: As mentioned in the point above, my siblings and I often went without. We of course had every thing we ‘needed,’ but we undoubtedly were not given every thing we ‘wanted.’ This was in component since of our financial situation. And yet, even when my father got into a position to be able to buy us youngsters what we ‘wanted,’ thankfully, he still chose to occasionally permit us to go without. He did this of course not to deprive us, but to teach us to appreciate what we had, work for what we ‘wanted,’ and develop attributes such as sacrifice, patience, sharing, and unselfishness.  Just put – we were not spoiled in any sense of the word!

7) We Had to Work: Each day my siblings and I had a chore – anything from making our bed, to sweeping the floor, vacuuming, taking the garbage out, to performing dishes. Also, I keep in mind each Saturday morning, our entire family would go out into the yard to do yard work together. Let’s be honest – what kid enjoys performing this stuff? But, as with every thing, my siblings and I look back with gratitude that my parents taught us the importance of work.

8) Fun Family Time … Typically: The last two points would make it seem that my siblings and I had been deprived youngsters who were worked to death. Really the contrary! We had a ton of enjoyable together as a family growing up. My childhood is filled with great memories of countless family nights of just playing games, drives up the canyon together, BBQ’s in the back yard, yearly vacations, weekend outings, camp-outs on the trampoline outside, and extremely frequent family nights. As already mentioned, my parents made their children their top priority, and thankfully rather than having the TV be our only entertainment (and babysitter), we often just spent the nights together playing games, laughing, talking, and having enjoyable.

9) My Father Loved My Mother: Never once do I bear in mind my father yelling at my mother. There was usually sincere and suitable affection shown to her verbally, emotionally, and physically – and thankfully, it was often in front of us children so we knew our dad loved and was committed to our mother. I specifically bear in mind having this enforced to me every meal when my dad would give my mom a kiss after we had a prayer over the meal – a tiny thing that had a huge impact.

10) They Loved Me Sufficient to Discipline Me: My parents disciplined me growing up, and I am forever grateful for that. Did I at times resent it growing up? Of course! Did my parents make mistakes in their disciplining efforts? Of course; but as already mentioned, they learned from that and changed. And, did I envy quite a few of my pals who had, what I thought at the time, ‘freedom’ simply because their parents did not discipline them like mine?   Yes. But, these friends’ options during their supposed years of ‘freedom’ led to consequences that resulted in the exact opposite of what ‘freedom’ genuinely is. Maybe most importantly, I never doubted that whenever my parents disciplined me that it was out of love and a desire to assist, teach, or protect – and by no means merely out of anger.

11) Mom & Dad Had been Equal: Of course my parents had diverse roles and responsibilities within our family and around the home, as every mother and father does. Nevertheless, 1 factor was often particular – they had been equal partners.  In no way was my father domineering, condescending, or treated as the superior in any way. He was the man of the house and certainly fulfilled his role; but correct by his side (not behind him) was my mother who was thought of, spoken to, involved in, and treated like an equal.

12) Cleanliness Was Demanded: My siblings and I still tease our mother for engraining into our minds an attribute we got so frustrated with growing up, but are ever so grateful for now. She demanded cleanliness … in every single aspect of our lives! We usually had to have a clean room, house, yard, auto, appearance, and most importantly – thoughts!

13) Specific Attributes Were Taught, Exemplified, and Expected: Thankfully my parents did not just ‘talk the talk’ – they literally lived what they taught and expected. A few of the numerous attributes my parents both taught and helped us develop were: integrity, honesty, unselfishness, difficult work, modesty and virtue, tolerance, respect, discipline, patience, persistence, assertiveness, independence, responsibility, prayerfulness, obedience, friendliness and kindness.

14) Throwing Fits Was Never Allowed: This might seem like a small thing, but I keep in mind us siblings had been by no means allowed to throw fits (and thus, I am certain I was not allowed either). Definitely, I am sure my parents had been attempting to teach us to realize that we can’t constantly get what we want, to learn to share, to be patient, to occasionally ‘go without,’ and to develop extremely early in life a healthy respect for adults and the ability to listen, respect, and obey.

(To view the remaining principles, please view component 2 in the Parenthood write-up series).

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